Bridesmaids

So i've been having a bit of trouble trying to figure out who my 4th wedding party member is going to be.

At first i was trying to decided between two really good friends, boy A and boy B. For help i asked boy C and boy C jokingly complained, "what about me" so then are started to think, "what about boy C". Then i decided that boy B was out because we had grown apart and i wasn't as comfortable around him as i use to be.

So now the choice was between boy A and boy C. I decided to pick boy A. boy A was very touched, but told me when he told his friends they made fun of him because he'd be standing on the brides side of the wedding party. But thats not my problem because none of those people are invited, haha.

So when i asked boy A it was still a ways away from the wedding, like a year or more. Come January 2011 boy A tells facebook that he's going on a tip in 11 months and wont it be exciting. So i ask "boy A, when is this trip exactly?"
and boy A replies "oh crap, i forgot"
at first that was kinda of frustrating, but it's not his wedding and when i asked him it was still a year+ in advance so it was understandable that he'd forget and now its kinda funny. Also missing a family vacation due to one day thats important to me and my fiance, and not to his family is an unrealistic expectation.

So boy A has to bow out, but thats ok because there's boy D, thats right, i didn't revert to Boy C because I grew up with boy D and he means a lot to me. Boy D is also delighted and deeply honored, but i find out that boy D is going away for school and doesn't know if he'll even be able to make it back to the continent for the wedding. So he gracefully bows out even though he wants to be standing up there with me.

So when i asked boy D i had an alternate for him already planned out. Which was good thinking because I evidently had to ask the alternate, girl A. Thats right im being conventional and asking a girl, its very weird i know.

girl A is awesome, she's super funny and a very calming presence. she's one of those people who you can just talked to about anything, and i usually do. Poor girl A probably feels overwhelmed at times by my venting and frustrations, but she always manages to make me laugh which is all that matters. I know she'll be able to keep me and everyone/thing else under control and calm.

So yay! i finally have my fourth party member cemented down. And if for some reason girl A can't do it, Darren and I already have a back up plan.